In the January issue of The Best You, Marisa Peer, who was voted Best British Therapist by Men’s Health magazine, gave women who were trying to get pregnant some practical advice. This month she expands on the power of the mind.
Recent statistics show that one in four couples are having problems conceiving, and these numbers are rising all the time. Many women who are not conceiving decide to go for IVF, but there is an easier way. If you want to have a baby, it’s important to realise that the hormones that make pregnancy possible begin in the mind. Your mind influences your body and will always do what it thinks you want to do, so the more you visualise yourself as a mother-to-be, the more you use powerful words like “I am super fertile and making grade A premium eggs”, the more your body will act off these words and images. They are a direct instruction to your body to make a baby and carry it to full term.
I truly believe that any healthy woman can have a baby – all you need to do is simply programme your mind to boost your fertility. Using NLP techniques, you are able to hugely increase your ability to get pregnant, make a perfectly healthy baby and deliver it easily. Our bodies are designed to make a baby, carry our children to full term then deliver our babies naturally. The body will do that without any help from you, but it will do it so much better if guided to do so by using specific language patterns and images.
Unexplained infertility and secondary infertility usually mean that the doctors have not found anything to prevent you from having a baby and often it is a mental block that is causing the infertility. Diagnosed problems can be overcome by using hypnosis, and if you are having IVF, you can use NLP techniques to increase your IVF success rate by visualizing each procedure and every medication taking you closer to your baby.
It is important to visualise yourself as a mother and to accept yourself as a parent. When parents are very close to adoption, they begin buying baby things as opposed to avoiding the baby aisles and baby shops. It cannot be a coincidence that so many women get pregnant naturally after adoption, or after an IVF baby. It occurs because finally they accept, and see themselves, as a mother.
Did you know?
Infertile couples are asked to use birth control for up to three years after adoption due to the high statistics of adoptive parents getting pregnant.
One of the best getting pregnant tips I can give you is to go down the baby aisles in the supermarket and into the baby shops, and plan all the things you will buy. Touch, smell, and feel the items. Look through baby catalogues, and plan your baby’s room, wardrobe, and nursery. Buy some socks or a little hat as faith that your baby is on its way to you.
Talk to your baby every single day. Welcome your baby into your womb, into your home, into your life, and into your heart. Send love to your baby; let it know how much you want it. Describe to the baby all the things you will do together and as a family. Show your baby that it’s wanted even before you get pregnant.
When you have sex, imagine your body acting out how to get pregnant. Imagine a perfect egg drawing a perfect sperm towards it, perfect fertilization taking place, and your fertilized egg becoming a foetus, implanting securely in your womb, and growing on target for nine months. You can use a book such as Life by Lennart Neilsonn that shows you this in beautiful detail.
Your egg is intelligent. It contains a life force all its own, and it knows exactly what to do at every stage of conception. If you see images of conception then instruct it, command it, and rehearse with it what is to happen. Your egg will do it.
Did you know?
Women with only one ovary have eggs that are so smart that they swim to and then travel down the alternate fallopian tube every other month.
See your baby’s presence everywhere… The cot in the baby room, the baby bath and all the baby products in the bathroom, the highchair and the buggy in the hall. Take the baby on a tour of your house. Show it how wanted and loved it is.
Stop worrying about not getting pregnant and start thinking about how you are a wonderful, loving mother. Think about how you are great parents, and how you bond with your baby immediately. You instinctively know what to do. See images of you and your baby bathing together or snuggled up in bed together.
Welcome and celebrate each step to getting pregnant. End every visualisation with the same image of you holding your baby in your arms in your hospital bed. Before and during any medical procedure, such as egg collection or embryo transfer, remind yourself that in nine months you will be in another bed in a similar room delivering your baby. Talk to your baby, and tell them this.