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Stop and Smell The Roses by Debbie Williams


When do we take time out to explore life’s simple pleasures? Going for a walk in nature can calm and invigorate us at the same time. We get so engrossed in work that we lose sight of the beauty that is all around us, says Birmingham-based life coach Debbie Williams.


I love this time of year .The buds are appearing on the magnolia tree in the garden and the tete-a-tete daffodils are now out, joining the vibrant purple of their neighbouring crocuses, which are still holding their own.

It’s great to take time and stand still to view life’s forthcoming attractions and to appreciate the growth of the many plants that are developing in their own time to shine and proudly show of their beauty.

I always feel very connected to my late father, as he was a keen gardener. I can lose myself yet find myself at the same time doing even the monotonous of tasks like weeding.

Many times, when I work with clients, I invite them to look through their past and rediscover the simple things in life that they used to enjoy, but, for whatever reason, they’ve stopped doing. Perhaps they liked to cook or write short stories or sing in the choir at school.

Leonardo Da Vinci who once said, “Every once and a while, go away and take a relaxing break, and then when you come back to your work, your judgment will be better – because remaining constantly at work will hinder your power of judgment. Move some distance away, because then your work will appear smaller, and more of it can be taken in at a glance, and any lack of harmony or proportion will be more effortlessly seen.”

A common saying is; “A change is as good as a holiday.” What if you looked at your diary for the next few months and put in some plans of things that would bring you joy. They needn’t cost much. Even staying overnight in a hotel and exploring a new part of the country is affordable with deals starting from £19 per night. Go to a butterfly farm or a rescue centre and “adopt a pet”, where you fund their care and get regular updates.

I always get my clients who have suffered with depression to start a feel-good journal, in which they record pleasurable times. I get them to scale the degree of pleasure, reassuring them if it’s a one out of ten, that is okay.

One client who had been sent to me by his parents had survived a suicide attempt. He thought he was a complete failure. I told him that failing to kill himself was a good thing. He looked at me as if I was nuts. Gradually over time he would chart good things starting with my first suggestion ‘’Even if you smell a rose and it’s one out of ten.’’ He did and said it was a two, which made him laugh. He rated the spontaneous laughter a three out of ten.


Debbie Williams

Throughout my career I’ve worked with some of the best hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners in the world. This included assisting Paul McKenna and Dr Richard Bandler on about 50 NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner courses. I also assisted Tony Robbins for 10 years on all his UK based courses after he came to Birmingham in 1993 to do his first European UPW event. These experiences allowed me to see NLP and hypnotherapy employed at the highest levels and inspired me to constantly better my own skills and explore cutting-edge techniques. As a result, I developed a very high media profile, with appearances on TV, the radio and in national newspapers, talking about NLP and its benefits. It was great, but it soon became clear to me that there was still work to be done in getting as many people as possible to experience the power of NLP and hypnotherapy. For a start, there were far too many high-profile hypnotherapists who were not great representatives of the art, leaving a negative impression of hypnotherapy as a whole on many people. The public simply had no idea how powerful NLP and hypnotherapy are when employed by a skilled, highly-trained practitioner. Second, not everyone could necessarily attend the various seminars available and would thus miss out on the benefits. The solution was obvious – make my expertise easily accessible to everyone, so they could implement it for themselves and see the results first-hand. And thus, this site was born! I am dedicated to not only constantly bettering my own skills, but sharing my discoveries with others and helping them live wonderful lives. This extends to all aspects of my work, not just this site. I’ve also created over 30 hypnosis products, which are just like having a one-to-one session with me in the comfort of your own home (and for a fraction of the cost!).

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