How Coaching Can Transform Your Life
Life coach Francesca Meloni wants to help you find a sense of purpose to create the best life for you
Before I became a certified coach I had changed careers twice, and left my home country, family and friends in order to find my heart’s desire. Although I couldn’t articulate it, I felt that something was missing. “How could I possibly want more?” I kept asking myself in a voice, feeling I should be grateful for what I had. Yet, I wasn’t happy, and deep inside I knew something had to change, but I just didn’t know what.
Because of this struggle, I can relate when a client says: “I have no idea what to do with my life” or “I don’t know what is stopping me”. The difference now is that I’m certain the answer is “yes you do, you know exactly what to do. You’ve been conditioned to believe the opposite; and that’s precisely what is stopping you.”
Coaching completely changed my life. I feel I’ve received a gift that is meant to be passed on. It can open your mind, heart and soul to infinite possibilities; empowering you to live your life more authentically. Here are five ways coaching can enrich and change your life:
1. Uncovering what you already know in your heart
It’s not about the coach giving you advice or instructions on what to do next, but rather about helping you clear away the delusions that come from socialisation, past experiences and memories. As a coach, my job is to help my clients break free from the fake reality that makes them feel wrong and enable them to start living a life that finally feels right.
2. Holding space
Perhaps you’re feeling your life doesn’t fit, or you’re going through a tough time, or maybe you have a huge opportunity knocking at your door. Whatever situation you might find yourself in, coaching is all about holding space. Space to voice your heart’s desire without any judgment or prejudice. Space to voice all your doubts and bad thoughts that make you feel ashamed. Space to create the life you want without outside pressure.
3. Unlearning what you think you know
From a very young age we’re programmed to believe certain things and act in ways that may not alignment with our true nature. This dissonance can lead to painful feelings such as stress, anger and frustration. If we chose to finally free ourselves from some of the rules that society has set for us, the chances are we’d face quite a lot of resistance. That’s when having an external voice can make all the difference in succeeding at life. A coach will encourage you to trust yourself and that what you know is right, despite people around you pressuring you to remain the way you are.
4. Beginning your healing process
‘The pain shows you what’s left to investigate’, says Byron Katie. Many of us spend time thinking about what we don’t want instead of what we yearn for. That’s precisely when we get all tangled up and left feeling ‘stuck’. Facing our pain is the only way we can let go of whatever is holding us back. Although daunting at first, it is the most liberating experience.
5. Realising that it all starts with you
Nothing around you will change until your heart is ready to feel differently. At the beginning of my career, I used to offer free coaching to people that I thought would benefit from it. To my surprise, there wasn’t much progress, and at first, I couldn’t understand why. Well, that experience taught me that we all grow into being ready in our own time and no one but you knows when that is.
Francesca Meloni is a certified life coach, NLP Practitioner and motivational speaker. For more information visit www.francesca-meloni.com.
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