Get Realistic! by Tim Brownson

performance management

 

I was working with a life coaching client this week on some stress management issues when he suddenly accused me of not being realistic.

 

Whenever I hear this, it never fails to make me smile. It is such an easy objection to overcome.

 

There is a pre-supposition in NLP that whatever one human being can do another one can do. I am not sure whether this is correct but I agree with the general sentiment and I certainly think that whatever you have achieved once in your lifetime you can achieve again, physical limitations not withstanding.

 

Imagine the difference that belief would make to your life if you thoroughly embraced and believed in it.

 

Standing on the first tee you know you have driven straight down the middle before so you can do it again, right. You’ve presented to 30 people before and you didn’t mess up, so you can do it again, right? You’ve got your weight down to your ideal in the past, so you can do it again, right? And so on and so forth.

 

So my client saw me smile and asked me what I was smiling at. I then ran off a long list of things that we had talked about that were causes for concern for him, from his health to keeping his job.

 

For each one I asked what were the odds that his concern would actually be realized. There wasn’t a single issue that had more than a 5% chance of happening and some were 1 in 100 shots.

 

So how realistic is it to worry about something that is almost certainly never going to happen? In my experience pessimism often dresses up as realism and that way people can justify it to themselves.

 

Let’s face it; nobody wants to think of himself or herself as a pessimist, but a realist? Well hey, that’s a whole different ball game.

 

If you are constantly worrying, sit down and make a list of things that you worry about. Try and get an idea of what the chances are that these things will actually happen.

 

Get impartial advice if you can. Be brutally realistic with each issue If they are more likely than 15 or 20%, then I would suggest they need attending to if they are in your sphere of influence.

 

Less than that and I would suggest that you use that time and energy to better use because unnecessary worry serves no purpose whatsoever other than to drain you both emotionally and physically. By the way, I am not suggesting you use this as carte blanche to be reckless and irresponsible, simply as a tool to make life more enjoyable.

 

Of course if you came to me and said you wanted to start a business that could compete with Microsoft within three years and asked me how realistic you were being, I would reply, “I don’t care how realistic it is, let’s do it! But hey that’s goal setting and that is a whole different ball game” 😉

 

“This post first appeared on A Daring Adventure.” 

About Ali Campbell

Ali Campbell is one of the world's leading life coaches and NLP'ers. He has built an enviable reputation as a highly motivational Coach, Therapist, Author and Presenter. Ali is the creator of the internationally acclaimed weight loss solution, The Slim Girls Box Of Secrets sold in over 44 countries and any internationally bestselling author with Just Get On With It - A caring compassionate kick up the ass published last year by Hay House even outselling the Dali Lama. As a trusted advisor to celebrities, business leaders and even royalty around the world. in the UK Ali is widely featured in the media, on television, radio and in print. With expertise gained right at the cutting edge of personal development Ali's no nonsense 'arm round your shoulder and a kick up the butt' style makes him truly unique in a field often dominated by more spin than substance.
http://www.alicampbell.com/

 

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