The Human Lie Detector. He is one of the world’s leading body language experts, and is a master of uncovering deception. Here are his ten things to look out for to tell if someone is lying to you…
There’s no eye contact
For the most part, people are uncomfortable when it comes to deceit. These persons will be bad liars and will not be able to look you in the eye. They will use tactics such as touching their eyes, yawning or simply keeping their back to you.
There’s too much eye contact
Unfortunately, there are those people who are comfortable with lying, however, they are just as easy to spot. These tricksters will overcompensate and maintain eye contact for too long as if determined to convince you that they are telling the truth. If they hold eye contact with you for more than six seconds, alarm bells should start to ring.
Where they’re looking
It is a little known but useful fact that when right-handed people are lying they will look right and when left-handed people ﬁb they will look left.
What they’re actually saying
Mimicking is often one of the key tell-tale signs that someone is being deceitful.
When a liar is put on the spot he or she will have very little time to plan a response, therefore they resort to mimicking the language of their accuser. For instance, if a truthful person were asked, ‘Are you cheating on me?’ they would respond with a simple, ‘No’ where as a liar would mimic and say, ‘No, I’m not cheating on you’.
How they’re standing
Crossed ankles and arms are key indicators of someone who is lying to you. However, many people are aware of this trait and will try and over-compensate by being overtly open with their body language. Similarly, liars tend to position themselves at right angles to the person to whom they are telling a lie. Also when it comes to spotting a female ﬁbber, their biggest giveaway is blushing.
We pick up many of our habits when we are children. When children ﬁb they, generally speaking, cover their mouth or touch their face. When it comes to adults, any type of hand gesture that revolves around the upper body, chest or face, such as rubbing their nose or scratching their head indicates deceit. Also if someone is holding an object, as they lie they will tighten their grip and hold it closer to their body. By doing this they are creating a subconscious barrier to hide behind.
Their lip colour (yep)
If their lips are pale and their face is either bright red or as white as a ghost, this can be a key sign that they are lying to you. The origins of this stem from the body’s natural ﬁght or ﬂight instinct in times of pressure.
A twitch, but not as you know it
Liars often twitch when they are being untruthful. If recognised this can be one of the easiest giveaways to identify. Sometimes it can be a particularly long blink, or it could be a tiny muscle in the cheek or neck. Men in particular have an area at the bottom of their nose that twitches when they are ﬁbbing.
As a general rule of thumb, we sweat more when we are lying and in particular on the palms of our hands. If you suspect someone of lying, shake their hand, if it is dripping with sweat the chances are that you have just been lied to.
Liars will have very little time to continue fabricating their story if questioned about it. Therefore using sarcasm is one of the ways they bluﬀ. If you are getting sarcastic answers to your questions then you are most likely being the victim of a liar.
Keep an eye out on Darren’s website under the events page for details of his upcoming Deception Detection shows being held in London in conjunction with The Best You.
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